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A little while ago, someone forwarded me an interesting email response to an article I had written about the collective madness which has befallen our species (The article, called The Madness of George W. Bush: A Reflection of our Collective Psychosis, is the first chapter in my book of the same name). The response was from well-known author Alice Miller, author of the classic book The Drama of the Gifted Child. I was most happy that such an esteemed psychiatrist would take the time to read my work. I quickly became dismayed, however, when I read her reply to my article. Miller roundly criticized the article, which I thought had clearly “solved all the world’s problems,” dismissing it in one broad stroke by saying, and I quote, that I did not “explain ANYTHING about the CAUSES of this madness,” which in her opinion is child abuse. I immediately thought how ridiculous, that no matter what anyone would say about anything, Alice Miller’s perspective was that if they weren’t talking about child abuse, then they weren’t dealing with the source of the problem. I remember thinking that due to her own unhealed abuse issues, Miller had clearly gotten triggered by what I had written and was having a knee-jerk reaction, as she could only see the world, I imagined, through her own limited filter. In marginalizing her viewpoint, however, I was unconsciously reacting against something which she was touching within myself.

A mistake I was potentially making was to dismiss Alice Miller’s reflection simply because I felt like she was reacting from her unconscious. Just because someone might be projecting their own unconscious process does not mean that there might not be some truth in what they are saying. In being triggered by her response and writing off her reflection, I might be missing a gift that Alice Miller is offering, as she is a voice in the field who might be bringing an important message. I began to wonder, what if she’s right?

What if the source of the problems in the world is the age-old tradition of “child abuse” which has informed all of us? For the sake of clarity, I need to differentiate terms, as child abuse is a loaded and charged phrase. Many people associate child abuse with physical beating, sexual abuse, severe neglect and the like. But child abuse is something that we have all suffered from in more elusive, hard-to-see, forms, to the extent that our parents were not fully enlightened (and whose parents were?). When there is “conditional” love based on our performance or behavior, when we become “domesticated” and are supposed to be a “good boy or girl,” when our parents vicariously live their unlived lives out through our accomplishments, or when our parents unconsciously abuse their power and enact their own unhealed abuse, all “for our own good” – these are all various forms of subtle but very real child abuse. When we receive crazy-making, double-signals from our parents, in which they say one thing but their energy is expressing something else, when our urges towards emotional independence and autonomy are subtly rejected, when our perceptions are denied, or when our expressions of our own unique and creative self are marginalized or criticized – these are all various forms of covert child abuse. All of these seemingly innocuous actions can potentially obstruct the child in the natural process of growing into who they truly are. These unconscious re-actions by the parents can potentially be introjected and internalized into the child’s psyche where they become inner, oppressive voices which, to the extent they aren’t integrated, develop a seemingly autonomous life of their own.

When I first conceived of this article, I realized its contents were exclusive, in that it would only be relevant to parents and/or children, but then I realized this includes everyone. We are all metabolizing our ancestral legacy of subtle or overt abuse which has been passed down and propagated throughout the generations. The archetypal idea of the sins of the fathers (and mothers) being visited upon the sons (and daughters) is psychologically true, and has found expression in inspired sources as varied as ancient mythology, the Bible and Shakespeare. We all have a subjective knowing of the validity of this phenomenon based on our lived experience. Every one of us, whether we know it or not, has become who we are, at least in part, as a result of our parents’ unconscious. It is not just our bodies that are the offspring of our parents; our psyches are the offspring of our parents’ unconscious, too. Jung emphasizes this very point when he says, “Not only the child’s body, but his soul, too, proceeds from his ancestry.” Our parents, who Jung suggests viewing as “children of the grandparents,” are formed, in turn, by their parents in a lineage that goes back throughout the generations. Jung explains, “We ought rather to say that it is not so much the parents as their ancestors – the grandparents and great-grandparents – who are the true progenitors, and that these explain the individuality of the children far more than the immediate, and so to speak, accidental parents.” This perspective expands the time-frame through which we relate to our family, and ultimately, ourselves.

Jung felt that the “unlived lives” of the parents deeply impacted the lives of the children, as if “branding” the children with a particular destiny. The unlived lives of the parents is an ancestral inheritance which has great weight and gravitas, in that it literally shapes the lives of the children. Jung elaborates on the notion of the parents’ unlived lives when he says it is “that part of their lives which might have been lived had not certain somewhat threadbare excuses prevented the parents from doing so. To put it bluntly, it is that part of life which they have always shirked, probably by means of a pious lie. That sows the most virulent germs.”

The repressed, unlived lives of the parents acts like a contagious and malignant psychic virus which infects the surrounding field. Speaking about repression, Jung makes the point that, “whatever you repress, whatever you don’t recognize in yourself, is nevertheless alive. It is constellated outside of you, it works in your surroundings and influences other people. Of course, you are blissfully unconscious of these effects, but the other people get the noseful.” This psychic virus is like a nonlocalized bug in the system which creates a dis-ease and disturbance in the coherence of the family. This virulent psychic pathogen germinates in and replicates itself through the unconscious of the children, which is the medium it uses to reproduce itself through generations, i.e., over time.

Children see more than the parents suspect or want them to see, as they are empathically tuned into the unconscious of the parents. The parents’ unconscious, which seems to be in the background, is actually in the foreground of the child’s psyche. The parent’s unconscious flows into and in-forms the child’s psyche. “Nothing influences children more,” Jung reflects, “than the silent facts in the background. They have an extremely contagious effect on the children.” The parents’ relationship to their unconscious influences the children’s unconscious through the avenue of the collective unconscious in which both are contained.

Children sense the underlying spirit of things. Describing the sensitivity of children, Jung knows from his own childhood, as do we all, that “Things that hang in the air and are vaguely felt by the child, the oppressive atmosphere of apprehension and foreboding, these slowly seep into the child’s soul like a poisonous vapor.” This toxic vapor is like an ancestral spirit which penetrates and insinuates itself into the core of the child’s being. This living spirit is the family inheritance, as it patterns, shapes and in-forms the offspring, who become compelled, to the extent they are under the spell cast by the parents, to unconsciously act out and become an instrument for the incarnation of the ancestral unconscious. They become the unwitting purveyors and living revelation of the “hidden gospel” of the unconscious of the ancestors.

We don’t exist in isolation from each other, but rather, in relation to all of the members of our human family who have existed over time. Jung re-contextualizes our family relations when he points out that, “…a human life is nothing in itself, it is part of a family tree. We are continuously living the ancestral life, reaching back for centuries, we are satisfying the appetites of unknown ancestors, nursing instincts which we think are our own, but which are quite incompatible with our character; we are not living our own lives, we are paying the debts of our forefathers.” We are the heirs to the family “fortune,” the current karmic fruition of our family tree.

“The child is so much a part of the psychological atmosphere of the parents,” Jung contemplates, “that secret and unsolved problems between them can influence its health profoundly. The participation mystique, or primitive identity, causes the child to feel the conflicts of the parents and to suffer from them as if they were its own. It is hardly ever the open conflict or the manifest difficulty that has such a poisonous effect, but almost always parental problems that have been kept hidden or allowed to become unconscious. The author of these neurotic disturbances is, without exception, the unconscious.” “Participation mystique” is a phrase that Jung uses often which he borrowed from the French anthropologist Levy-Bruhl. Developmentally speaking, it is a primitive and un-evolved state of consciousness in which we are magically fused and merged with our environment so as not to be able to differentiate between ourselves and others at a fundamental level. When participation mystique happens between a parent and a child it is a state of mutual unconscious identification in which they are co-dependently entangled with each other and aren’t able to experience their psychic autonomy and independence from each other. When there is participation mystique, the parties are psychically bound and tied to each other in a way which reciprocally inhibits their intrinsic freedom. To the extent that the parents are still fused in a state of participation mystique with the unconscious of their parents and haven’t fully psychologically separated and individuated, is the extent to which they themselves will not relate to their offspring as autonomous and independent beings, but rather, as unconscious extensions of their own psyche. Parents who still haven’t worked out their parental baggage dream up the kids to be psychic appendages of their own unresolved process, which is a subtle but very real form of child abuse. The author of these real life dramas, as Jung points out, is the unconscious itself.

“The ‘parental imago’ [the image of the parents in the psyche of the child] is possessed of a quite extraordinary power; it influences the psychic life of the child so enormously,” Jung writes, “that we must ask ourselves whether we may attribute such magical power to an ordinary human being at all.” What gives the parents such power over their children is that our particular, earthly parents are merely re-presentations and animations of the underlying archetype of the “divine parents,” which exists inside the collective unconscious itself. Our parents are instruments to play out, embody, and activate the pre-existent parental archetype which lives within the psyche of all of us. It is the underlying, numinous archetype which the actual parents are mediating that amplifies their effects upon the children. Just as a bird’s migratory and nest-building instincts are not individually learned, but are inherited from its collective ancestry, the power of the parents is derived from the primordial, archetypal image which resonates deep within the psyche of our species.

Jung notes that “the power of the archetype is not controlled by us, we ourselves are at its mercy to an unsuspected degree. There are many who resist its influence and its compulsion, but equally many who identify with the archetype….and because everyone is in some degree ‘possessed’ by his specifically human preformation, he is held fast and fascinated by it and exercises the same influence on others, without being conscious of what he is doing. The danger is just this unconscious identity with the archetype: not only does it exert a dominating influence on the child by suggestion, it also causes the same unconsciousness in the child, so that it succumbs to the influence from outside and at the same time cannot oppose it from within.” The child’s outer process with the parent becomes internalized and becomes an inescapably compelling inner process.

Parents play a key and fateful role in their children’s karmic destiny. When the parents are repressing their unconscious and not responsibly doing their own “inner work,” Jung comments, “it radiates out into the environment and, if there are children, infects them too. In this way neurotic states are often passed on from generation to generation, like the ‘curse of Atreus’ [in Greek mythology the ‘curse of Atreus’ is symbolic of an ancestral, family curse which is passed down through the generations]. The children are infected indirectly through the attitude they instinctively adopt towards their parent’s state of mind: either they fight against it with unspoken protest (though occasionally the protest is vociferous) or else they succumb to a paralyzing and compulsive imitation. In both cases they are obliged to do, to feel, and to live not as they want, but as their parents want. The more ‘impressive’ the parents are, and the less they accept their own problems (mostly on the excuse of ‘sparing the children’), the longer the children will have to suffer from the unlived life of their parents and the more they will be forced into fulfilling all the things the parents have repressed and kept unconscious.”

When the parents succumb to the compulsion to turn away from their own darkness, resist the illumination of consciousness and hence, avoid relationship with parts of themselves, Jung states that “they do not know that by succumbing to the compulsion they pass it on to their children and make them slaves of their parents and of the unconscious as well. Such children will long continue to live out the curse laid on them by their parents, even when the parents are long since dead.”

If the parents get in the habit of compulsively avoiding their responsibility to self-reflect, a toxic atmosphere is conjured up in the family system which is very disturbing to the family’s emotional body. “The repressed problems and the suffering thus fraudulently avoided secrete an insidious poison,” Jung tells us, “which seeps into the soul of the child through the thickest walls of silence and through the whitest sepulchers of deceit, complacency, and evasion. The child is helplessly exposed to the psychic influence of the parents and is bound to copy their self-deception, their insincerity, hypocrisy, cowardice, self-righteousness, and selfish regard for their own comfort, just as wax takes up the imprint of the seal. The only thing that can save the child from un-natural injury is the efforts of the parents not to shirk the psychic difficulties of life by deceitful maneuvers or by remaining artificially unconscious, but rather to accept them as tasks, to be as honest with themselves as possible, and to shed a beam of light into the darkest corners of their souls.”

Parents are not asked to be perfect, which is both impossible and would be a catastrophe for the kids. Parents cannot be expected to have no faults or unresolved complexes, which would be superhuman, but rather, they should make sincere efforts to not deny and repress their weak points and unconscious areas but recognize them for what they are. With regards to their unconscious issues, parents, according to Jung, “should at least come to terms with them consciously; they should make it a duty to work out their inner difficulties for the sake of the children.” It is an ethical responsibility for the parents to deal with their own unhealed complexes. “Parental influence only becomes a moral problem,” Jung continues, “in face of conditions which might have been changed by the parents, but were not.” In other words, it becomes a “moral sin” when the parents are potentially able to shed light on and deal with some unconscious area in themselves, and choose not to, “remaining,” in Jung’s words, “artificially unconscious.”

When the unconscious is dealt with responsibly by the parents, however, this relieves the kids of a burden which ultimately was not theirs to begin with. Parents can genuinely bless their children to the utmost by stepping into their own authenticity, vulnerability and transparency. When a parent deals responsibly with their own unconscious, they are modeling and activating the very same process in the child, as parents and children are nonlocally interconnected and intimately co-related through the collective unconscious. Self-reflection by the parents is instantaneously and reflex-ively received and reflected by and through the child. Occurring in the depth of the psyche, this process of self-reflection mirrors back to both parent and children who they are, and it empowers, instead of obstructs, the children to naturally flower and blossom into who they are here to be.

The parent’s self-reflection not only helps to heal both parent and children, but it nonlocally sends ripples back through time, initiating a process of healing the entire ancestral lineage. It is as if we are the culmination, crystallization and carriers of a higher-dimensional and multi-generational process of working something out. Potentially, in this very moment, we have the precious opportunity to liberate these ancestral, rhizomic strands of trauma which extend far back in time and equally far into the future, but which also converge and are spread throughout the present in the form of the society and culture in which we live. We can be the ones to break the link in the chain and dissolve these insidious, mycelium-like threads, which are literally the warp and woof upon which the tapestry of the past, present, and future history of our species is woven. As the current lineage holders of an ancient, ancestral tradition, our task, whether we are in the role of parent and/or child, is to alchemically transmute this potentially destructive spirit which animates the “family” abuse (both in our nuclear family and the greater, human family) so as to liberate our own creative brilliance which it seemingly holds captive.

To the extent that we see how the transmission of child abuse works – in our own lives, with our own parents and children – we are able to consciously re-engineer the vehicle of human relationship, both within and between ourselves, thereby catalyzing the evolutionary up-leveling of human consciousness itself. Maybe, like Alice Miller implies, we can genuinely begin to heal the world in the process.

A pioneer in the field of spiritual emergence, Paul Levy is a healer in private practice, assisting others who are also awakening to the dreamlike nature of reality. Paul is also a visionary artist and a spiritually-informed political activist. He is the author of The Madness of George Bush: A Reflection of Our Collective Psychosis,which is available on his website www.awakeninthedream.com. (See the first chapter, The Madness of George W. Bush: A Reflection of our Collective Psychosis). Please feel free to pass this article along to a friend if you feel so inspired. You can contact Paul at paul@awakeninthedream.com; he looks forward to your reflections. © Copyright 2010

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17 Responses to Unlived Lives

  1. Thanks a ton for being our coach on this theme. My partner and
    i enjoyed your own article quite definitely and most of all preferred how you really handled the areas I considered to be controversial.
    You are always incredibly kind to readers
    much like me and aid me in my lifestyle. Thank you.

  2. I understand what it’s like to be in conflict with one’s parents. WhenI was little,I would get very upset if a parent was critical of me. One time, when I was 4, both parents had been critical of me, in a short span of time. I was so upset that I left the house, walked to the main highway and walked about a mile down it, intending to leave home and never come back. Grief stricken and angry, the whole time I kept wondering where I was going and what I was going to do. I couldn’t figure it out, so I finally turned around and went back home. My parents never knew that I had left. I also fought with my older brother a lot. But now I have ideas where that pattern is coming from. It does seem to be connected to Trojan War times, when Paris’ parents and siblings, abandoned him on Mount Ida as a newborn to die, because they didn’t want him to bring about the destruction of Troy. Another karmic reminder is when my father decided to start to cut the hair of myself and my brothers. Him cutting my hair always always made me nervous for my eyes. At some point when I was young, I became nearsighted and started wearing glasses. One time I started sharpening a pencil. I took off my glasses to watch more closely what I was doing. Somehow, the pencil slipped out of the pencil sharpener and stabbed me above the left eye. There was a lot of blood and I thought that I might have lost an eye. My father took me to the hospital in the ambulance. I believe my mother was with us. At the emergency room, the doctor looked at the eye and it was perfectly alright. I believe all that was meant to be a psychic family healing. As in confirmation of my evaluation, many years later I met a woman 10 years younger than me, who reminded me of a certain Biblical woman character, the very first time I saw her. When she heard that I was in the flea market business, she wanted to get involved. For a number of years we did things together, yet she never became my girlfriend. I believe karma worked against it. I became known for my ability to do strenuous things and move heavy objects, even though I was only 2 meters tall and never much more than 200 pounds. With my friend Jill, it was the most extreme. And the most extreme example with her was one time about 15 or 20 years ago, when I was driving down the highway in my large sized Dodge Ram van, with her as a passenger and a full heavy load on the van. The van broke down at a stop light and wouldn’t restart. I didn’t want to pay for a tow. So I asked Jill if she would steer the van, while I pushed it about a quarter mile down the road to a gas station. As I got to the concrete ramp up into the gas station, I wondered how I would get it up the ramp. “Coincidently”, my mother just happened to be driving by, saw me pushing my van, and helped me get my van the rest of the way into the service station with her van. A week or so later, Jill was with me at my house, by my van. The neighbor Ralph saw us and for some reason mentioned to Jill how strong I was and that I had carried a heavy treadle sowing machine, up the stairs of the back apartment by myself. Jill exclaimed that she knew and she exaggerated that she had been with me when I had pushed my heavily loaded van 2 miles down the road to a gas station, without stopping. At some point, Jill decided to move in with her boyfriend in north Jersey. She hired me to help her move, naturally. She was a pack rat and had stuff everywhere. One problem she had was that her heavily loaded van’s front tires were stuck in a deep rut, in the back yard where the car had been sitting for months and she didn’t know what to do about it. So I unloaded the van, sat in front of it, braced my back and using the strength in my legs, pushed the van out of the deep rut with my feet. Then I was able to push and steer the van around the house to the street in front, where it could be easily towed. At some point, I mentioned to Jill that she had reminded me of a certain Biblical character from thousands of years ago, the very first time I saw her. But I was thinking to myself that maybe I shouldn’t have told her that. But she became all exited and wanted to know. So I told her. This may all seem strange how I seem to be connecting the present to the past. It’s not recommended, but it seems to work for me and happens unexpectedly. Hopefully it’s making me more aware an having a healing effect. I hope to extend that healing effect to others.

  3. I think that one of the things that can be helpful to deal with the sort of epigenetic passing along of trauma is examining our own attachment issues to see how those influence us as parents and how we were influenced by our parents. Dan Siegel’s book “Parenting from the Inside Out,” goes into the background about this and several approaches in mindfulness that allow for the person to be more in control of that as they parent.

    That constant set of subconscious messages playing in the background of our minds all day largely about “Don’t” or in various ways for far too many, “You’re not capable,” can be resolved into a secure background and to some extent be powerful for us as we show liberation from these.

    The great psychotherapist and author Victor Frankl ( Mans Search for Meaning,) was able to help so many with devastating obsessive compulsive behavior through his process which actually often ended in laughter as the person took control by exaggerating purposely the compulsive thoughts and behaviors rather than their being in control of the person’s actions and thoughts..

    These are in a way sort of constant panic attacks and Dr. Ron Robbins has a process though which most people with panic attacks are able to eliminate the worst of them in one session through an intense process of discovering the roots of the trauma behind the trance induced panic. http://rhythmicintegrationpanicproject.blogspot.com/p/about-us.html Essentially, various people therapists educators are finding ways to liberate ourselves from our sense of self identifying itself with the mind. That was an old saw of the EST trainings and was quite effective in a fairly short time allowing people that sense of control and ability to act in a fashion in which they felt more in charge and responsible i.e. able to experience being the source of their thoughts rather than the thoughts being in charge. So liberation from the victim stance and eventually ability to expand consciouness beyond the individual out into the entire communal experience which is our indigenous ancestral birth right.

  4. “Parents who still haven’t worked out their parental baggage…”

    But earlier you say it’s all the generation’s baggage. So how are we to work out all of these?

    I’m in psychoanalysis too, but that’s worry me.

  5. Thank you for this article. I stumbled upon it as I was looking for Jung’s quote on the unlived life of the parents. It comes to me in a very timely manner, upon my return from visiting family, where secrets and silences lie deep and thick, and being the one adult child holding consciousness of it all is a heavy load.

  6. Dear Paul:
    As I reflect on this further, I continue to sense a disconnect between the notion of Wetiko and what appears to be a kind of blaming stance regarding parents and their generations of parents before them, the “ancestral past.”
    As you point out in the history of Wetiko, at some point in history, we no longer lived in the experience of collective belonging with everything and began to think of ourselves as individuals as Einstein calls it a kind of delusion of separateness. In our present non indigenous cultures of individualism experiencing ourselves as separate not only from one another , from the whole and everything of nature, we are bound to opt for survival living in the myth we create of scarcity. Wars, natural disasters, external destructions of any ongoing communal stability throws us into survival mode. It is dramatic to see how this does not destroy the integrity in one indigenous village in Guatemala during one if the worst earthquakes in the last century as written about by Martin Prechtel in his latest book “Unlikely Oeace at Cuchumaquic ” to which I referred in my previous comment.
    Collective grieving of our losses even if the loss of innocence has not been facilitated in our so called modern culture. In rituals allowing for this as practiced by many different indigenous cultures, you see an enormous release and recognition of how that unmetabolized grief has functioned in ghostly ways permitting present relationships at all levels leading to individuals surviving at any cost maintaining their rightness in the very face of destroying themselves and their progeny’s inheritance in the process. The notion of not doing anything that may cause harm or thinking of passing on that which will enrich the lives of those into the 7th generation is about that very kind of consciousness.
    Dr. Joy Degruy writes about what she calls the post traumatic slave syndrome. People who survive such trauma, and most if us come from several or less generations back of being surfs or underlings of a controlling oligarchy, opt naturally for survival which generates behaviors that replicate the very nature of that past even when we are no longer as subject to surfdom or slavery.
    Where are the therapies or groups who are providing support for those generations to get through the grieving and healing?
    Again, a kind of mentor if mine in all of this is the work and presence if Martin Prechtel and his CD if Grief and Praise is seminal for this discussion.
    Thanks for providing this forum and many thanks to others who have taken the time and effort to respond.
    “Long life, honey in the heart, no misfortunes, 13 thankyous,”

  7. In my opinion, your theory is heavy on the idea of “predestination and fate.” It’s hard enough to be a ‘parent’ an to raise healthy, engaged children who become contributors to society without having to reflect on my fears and insecurities and those of my parents, grandparents, ad infinitum. The assumption that we are all flawed without recognizing that the individual, whether parent or child, CHOOSES to blaze a different path than those that came before them.
    As human beings, we have so many difficulties to overcome and to add just one more layer to an already absurdly heavy burden, does not seem prudent or helpful. We are all subject to all kinds of losses and whether or not the specific peculiarities of a distinct personality can always be tied to “child abuse” regardless of definition, is questionable.

  8. Thought-provoking and beautifully written — not to mention that it accords deeply with my own long-held views….I tend to try to understand everyone through their backgrounds….their connection to their families and siblings…and it is great to have confirmation of this nature (meaning a well-researched and honest assessment of this incredibly complex subject)from you….thank you!

  9. […] As Paul Levy so beautifully puts it, “we have the precious opportunity to liberate these ancestral, rhizomic strands of trauma which extend far back in time and equally far into the future, but which also converge and are spread throughout the present in the form of the society and culture in which we live. We can be the ones to break the link in the chain and dissolve these insidious, mycelium-like threads, which are literally the warp and woof upon which the tapestry of the past, present, and future history of our species is woven.” […]

  10. Thanks so much for this article. I really resonated with it and espcially was touched by this quote: The parent’s self-reflection not only helps to heal both parent and children, but it nonlocally sends ripples back through time, initiating a process of healing the entire ancestral lineage. It is as if we are the culmination, crystallization and carriers of a higher-dimensional and multi-generational process of working something out.

  11. I am so deeply interested in your article. I wrote one on my website a while ago on the same topic: http://liberatingemotions.com/?p=257
    What you wrote is so true and evident once people’s lives are looked at more deeply. I do that in the Emotion Code sessions I do when I tap into the client’s subconscious and through muscle testing find out what personal and/or ancestral emotions are at the root of their problem/trauma/discomfort.
    The more I do sessions, the more it has become clear to me that we are the product of our ancestors and that their pain and unresolved issues have become ours, like it or not.
    This is real and hopefully with articles like yours will be more known and understood in our society that too many times is too superficial. We have to have the courage to dig more deeply for answers and this is exactly what you have done.

  12. Dear Paul:
    Really great piece and so absolutely on point in so many ways. So hard to be a father who has participated in many ways in this horrible dance which has not ended by any means and may yet end in joy. I have to keep that possibility. The work of Systemic Constellations as promulgated by folks like John L. Payne http://www.johnlpayne.com and Francesca Mason Boring http://allmyrelationsconstellations.com/ among others sometimes assited with rituals like those organized by Dr. Malidoma Patrice Some http://www.malidoma.com are powerful antidotes to this process. Also the work of Martin Prechtel http://www.floweringmountain.com/ and his most recent book “The Unlikely Peace at Cuchumaquic: The Parallel Lives of People as Plants: Keeping the Seeds Alive,” are antidotes. Hard work and is there any other kind that can address the evil?

  13. Dear Paul,

    I came across your name and website this morning. I read with great interest many of your posts and watched your book launch video. My name is Mark Scoville and my formal education has been in engineering, physics, chemistry and biology. I spent much of my early professional career in the military but have spent the last 15 years working as a dentist in Winnipeg, Manitoba Canada. I also teach part-time as a clinical instructor at the University of Manitoba.

    I know from personal experience how easy it is to develop a life-narrative around the issue of child abuse. Trying to understand current complexes by searching solely through the wounds and injuries of childhood trauma, however, is a Freudian approach rather than Jungian. As an atheist, Freud’s thought was inevitably bound by the linearity of time and the inescapable thermodynamic (entropic) reality of our post-singularity, post-Big Bang universe. In contrast, the world view of Jungians, is less limited; less absurd. The individual histories of human beings are much too grand–tied as we are to each other through shared stories and fictions– our true potentials are infinite and stretch far beyond the range of time’s linear arrow.

    For example, in coming to understand my own upbringing, I have travelled in a circle of sorts. Where I was once caught in a fiction of childhood victimhood and powerlessness, I have come to comprehend and to choose to be my own good and nurturing father. As an adult, I can love and care for the child that I never really left behind. Similarly, I can choose to be the good parent of my abused sister. I can even distort the rational bounds of time and gender to become the good father and mother of my own parents. I have arrived at this point through an understanding of quantum paradoxes and Christian mysticism: “…I am in the Father, and the Father in me: or else believe me for the very work’s sake.” (John 14:11).

  14. Excellent article. I do believe that psychosis is developed from this fragmenting of our ancestors , down through to our current parents. Maybe the persons whom suffer the psychosis are the ones unable to fragment and play the persona , adopt to the falsities of life submerging the most valuable pieces of self. But in the current state of humanity this is what we are continually expected to do and considered normal and is in truth very abnormal but is yet unaware.

    Carly , eventually the wound itself causes the reflection. I promise this is the way that it unfolds.

    As a result the person splits to the extreme in an effort to survive. This I think automatically happens. I have come to see that all people are mentally ill and the ones we pronounce as “mentally ill” are just people who have these same traits just more intensely. What is a further shame is the paucity in actual healers which instead we have so called experts who are of no help and make things worse.

  15. Great article Paul! I’m writing a paper touching on this topic and would greatly appreciate the resources you quoted for Jung. I’m playing with the idea of psychosis as an archetypal intrusion of unresolved ancestral karma and am planning on citing your article as well. The Jung resources are vital however, please let me know which CW they are found in.

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